Women - by nature, they have feminine qualities for nurturing children. As such, they are found to be better parents than men. However the role of men in child-rearing cannot be undermined. Men are most necessary if children have to be fully aware of the roles of both genders. But women have proved themselves superior parents thanks to their feminine qualities, soft skills, less aggressive nature and their generally better communication skills.
From an evolutionary psychological perspective, children are more important to their mothers than to their fathers, and, as a result, their loss would be more devastating to their mothers than to their fathers. It is not difficult to find abundant evidence for the fact that mothers are more dedicated to their children than fathers. For example, when married couples with children get divorced, chances are that the children stay with the mother, not the father, especially if they are young. According to the 1992 March/April Current Population Survey in the United States, conducted by the US Census Bureau on a nationally representative sample, 86% of custodial parents are mothers. Further, many of the noncustodial fathers who have agreed to pay child support, either voluntarily or via court order, default on their commitment or become “deadbeat dads." The first national survey of the receipt of child support, conducted in 1978, reveals that less than half (49%) of women awarded child support actually received the full amount due to them, and more than a quarter (28%) of them received nothing. The percentages have remained more or less constant since. In 1991, 52% of custodial parents awarded child support received the full amount; 25% of them received nothing.
There is a quote: “Men make house, women make home” and it tends to be precise throughout the history until now. This idea does not mean that men are not important in raising children but as we look over daily familial life, women are closer to children than men. When children are in danger, the first word they shout is: “Mommy, help me”. In fact, women have usually proven themselves to be superior parents as a result of those reasons.
First, women obtain more familial condition than men. Since they are very young, females enjoy learning about nurturing. They love to play with doll, feed them, pretend that they are their mothers and sing them a lullaby. Later, they take care of younger brothers or sister. Girls sympathize the essential role of their mothers and they often consider those activities, housework are feminine. Compare to boys, they have so many differences. Boys like virile things such as: football, guns, and vigorous heroes in movies. And while boys dream to be as strong as Popeye the sailor man, or to conquer Red planet, girls just want to be doctor to help the poor, a warm and happy family. Thus, girls have propensities in raising children.
Second, girls are less aggressive, and their stamina is much better than men. As we see, every war involve in men. Men are the leaders, 85% soldier of Department of Defences are men that is mean men are usually prove to be aggressor in crime and war. Moreover, the New York Times has just reported that it would be better if you raise your children with calmness, sweetness but sometimes with sternness. Women are considered as sensitive, therefore, they know how to conduct flexibly, aware when to support the children or when to teach them. Having offspring is hard, but raising them to become good citizen is much harder.
And the final reason why I think women make better parents than men is women have better communication skill. In 1992, Swan made a survey about the differences among brains of girls and boys. After some tests, he finally discovered that almost girls have better score in oral skills. Communication skills are one of the most important skills to become good parents because your children inherit everything from their Mom and Dad such as: behaviour, character… Thus, verbal skill influences children a lot.
Although, there are many opponents about this issue. They said men could make better parents than women. Men are usually stern, harsh and straightforward and children need these characters to become good citizenships. Nowadays, social issue is in emergency, many youths are arrested because of using heroine, sexual abusing… Therefore, to protect children, parents must be stern and force children to follow their disciplinary rule. That is also meaning there are not any existences of sweetness, calmness. This idea has some merit on the surface. Nevertheless, should we always follow these boring and nonsense rules? Children change their physical body and their soul every day. Parents should listen to their children, do the best things for them, and support them to stand up when they are fallen off. In short, parents must be flexible, and willing to change. Being good parents does not mean just coerce your children to follow your words.
In conclusion, I advocate the idea that women make better parents than men. Women not only have many natural skills, such as: good stamina, calmness… but also some appropriate condition to become good parents and that is why they have the greater role in raising children in most societies.
BY SOON YUNG WANG (16529), MUHD. FARID HAMZAH (16192)